“Are you the person the person you are looking for is looking for? Not for the faint of heart, The New Rules for Love, Sex & Dating challenges singles to step up and set a new standard for this generation.“If you don't want a marriage like the majority of marriages, then stop dating like the majority of daters! I say "hopefully" because every hardcore B' and B'ette fan scans the Internet for weeks following that final episode to see who was right after all. I realize that you realize movies, reality Tv, and novels don't reflect real life. In the end it comes down to two things (actually maybe one thing, but for the sake of clarity I'll keep them separate): chemistry and attraction. But I doubt there are too many fifteen-year-olds reading this. romance overpowers objectivity, which will work to your advantage in marriage.
Thinking that if you met the "right person" everything would turn out "right"? In The New Rules For Love, Sex & Dating, Andy Stanley explores the challenges, assumptions, and “Are you the person the person you are looking for is looking for? Best of all, he offers the most practical and uncensored advice you will ever hear on this topic. Problem is, we don't hear much about the more side of the relational equation. There are a number of factors, among them beauty, talent, confidence, intelligence, depth, wit, family, wealth, weight, height, career, and personality. But at the end of the day, our lists are not the deciding factors, are they? But as I'm fond of saying, falling in love is easy; it requires a pulse. When a relationship feels right, it's a powerful thing. It's no wonder that the righter a relationship feels, the quicker we are tempted to take things further. Not only is sex not the litmus test for relational compatibility, it actually inhibits and distracts from relational development. Because sex has the capacity to camouflage an endless list of relational deficiencies and dysfunctions.
Online dating services provide a similar context." Likely Stanley does not intend to convey to his readers that it is unnecessary to finding someone who shares your faith so long as you prepare for marriage well by paying off your debt, breaking bad habits, and addressing past experiences.
Andy Stanley, pastor of the 30,000 member North Point Ministries, addresses a range of issues from human sexuality to pornography in his latest book, The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating.While the broader culture continues to fight over what “sexual morality” means, one thing is certain: Andy Stanley is determined not to sit this one out.RNS: If these are the new rules for love, sex, and dating, what are some of the old rules that you don’t think work anymore?As I stumble through the awkward limbo of single, yet soon-to-be-married, I've tried to read every resource tagged within the "marriage," "love," and "relationships" genre.This, and the fact that I was desperate to escape the zillions of online articles dissecting from every possible angle (though I'm grateful for their messages), prompted me to download a copy of Pastor Andy Stanley's new book on romantic relationships to my Kindle. Geared towards the young, unwed, and culturally savvy, Stanley explains in the introduction that his purpose for writing (Zondervan, January 2015) is to "increase your relational satisfaction quota." What does that mean? Still I pressed onward with hopes of encountering helpful gems of wisdom and Christian counsel over the next 200 pages. Thinking that if you met the "right person" everything would turn out "right"? In The New Rules For Love, Sex & Dating, Andy Stanley explores the challenges, assumptions, and land mines associated with dating in the twenty-first century. As I mentioned in the introduction, more is what this book is all about. On a personal note, it's why I love going home at the end of the day. Attraction Matters Before we explore more, let's think together for just a paragraph or two about what makes a right person a right person. Online dating services wouldn't work if people didn't have lists. Since the title of this book promises SEX, I thought we should introduce the topic in this first chapter. as long as you promise to come back and read the first seven chapters. I'm sexually compatible with a million other people. I know, sounds like something your momma would say.” —Andy Stanley Also includes a four-session small group discussion guide to be used with The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating video (sold separately). But in the end, regardless of how many potential right candidates there are, one and only one is chosen. As of the writing of this book, it appears that five contestants chose well. I assume you don't take your relationship cues from script writers and authors. While most everybody has a mental list of what makes the right person the right person, most people abandon their lists for physical attraction and chemistry. While instant chemistry is common, instant chemistry that dovetails into an instantly healthy relationship with until-death-do-us-part potential is not. But before marriage, a lack of objectivity is dangerous.We have to become the type of person that the person we’re looking for is looking for. But somehow when it comes to love and romance, there is an assumption that we don’t need to ourselves.That somehow commitment will trump the needs for preparation.Not for the faint of heart, The New Rules for Love, Sex andamp; Dating challenges single Christ followers to step up and set a new standard for this generation!The New Rules for Love, Sex and Dating: Unveils what God says that will lead to success in dating and marriage, Transforms guys way of thinking about women, Reveals common myths about sex outside of marriage, Prepares men and women to one day say 'I do' and mean it, And much more.