To have a successful relationship, you need to be open to creating change.And it is often the changes you make with yourself that give you the best results in your relationship.I met this guy on a night out with friends and we’ve been texting pretty much all day every day for a month.He often texts me first and we seem to really get along well and like him a lot.We give away our exclusivity before a man gives us the commitment we want.When we close off our options with other men too soon, we actually sabotage our ability to get the commitment and intimacy we so desire.Here’s why: NO MORE NEEDY VIBE THAT PUSHES MEN AWAYWhen you have all your hopes and dreams wrapped up in any one guy, it’s natural to fear losing him…and losing you.You become obsessed with every phone call, jump when he says jump, and change from the attractive, interesting woman who intrigued him into someone needy and clingy he feels pressured to check in with.
I personally am not interested in other boys, and while at the moment I’m still happy with seeing how things go, I just want to know how he feels it’s going with us. I’ve seen men and women make the mistake of fixating on one person and jumping way ahead into thinking about where things could lead and what their relationship could become. We have a notion in our culture that a relationship with someone somehow entitles you to that person, almost like they are your property or possession… I can guarantee that if you get wrapped up in worrying about what he’s doing, you’ll do things that will harm your chances.Especially when it comes to assclowns and habitually emotionally unavailable men, they need attention in the form of ego stroking, a convenient shag, and a smokescreen that let’s themselves believe that they are not the assclown that they actually are.Some need to prove they’ve still got ‘it’, some are afraid to look in the mirror and see themselves for what they are, some are afraid of what it means to have another ‘failed’ relationship, and some just like having someone there.So rather than worry and wonder about what he might be doing, let go of it and realize that you really don’t have any control over him or anyone else. You might say to me, “Well, Eric, that’s because she’s You’ll notice that the women who have effortless success in their dating life absorb themselves in enjoying their life and the world around them, not fixating on internal worries or trying to control the behavior of others.They focus on having a great relationship with the people around them…I'm sad to lose my friend and companion, someone I had trusted and considered a potential partner. When do I have the right to get his attention to settle this awkward stage. Thousands of years ago, a woman would depend on a man to provide her physical needs, such as food and shelter, for her and her children’s survival.We are both over 40 and have had serious relationships before. Today women can certainly take care of themselves, but the e...and if they don’t do what you want, you are entitled to punish them, shame them, berate them, invade their privacy, etc. Worry leads to desperation, desperation leads to acting needy, acting needy leads to the guy wanting nothing to do with you. Don’t fixate on him – consider yourself on the dating market until he specifically and clearly locks you down into a relationship.It’s ridiculous and insane, but common and therefore accepted by the masses as “the way it is.” The fact of the matter is: you can’t control anyone but yourself. And at the end of the day, everyone (including you) is going to do whatever they want to do. Moreover, you’ll find that the women that have the most success in their dating life don’t pay attention to things like worrying about what the guy is doing or “plotting and scheming” how to control the guy’s behavior.It’s the biggest mistake women make, and you need to stop it – right now!– and start dating many men at the same time until you have the commitment you want from the man who is right for you.