We don't need to get into the reasons why (old childhood wounds, past heartbreak, etc); what we want to address is what you can do about it now.The Chemistry Illusion We women try to take this feeling we call chemistry — even if it's chemistry with a man who isn't good for us — and we interpret it as a sign that we have met someone special.
And if you don’t have a subscription and you don’t want to miss exclusive content like this, please register above to get the 5 Massive Mistakes e Book and my free weekly emails that come with it. All you know is that you wouldn’t trade this feeling for anything in the world. You learn he’s jealous, or controlling, or irresponsible, or unethical. If you were thinking critically, you’d never put up with this, but you’re not.We mistake how well a date went for understanding what a man is feeling.We guess that if there was chemistry and he showed interest, then he must be available, he must want a relationship and he must want it with us.chemical dating An absolute dating technique that depends on measuring the chemical composition of a specimen.Chemical dating can be used when the specimen is known to undergo slow chemical change at a known rate.The nervous system gets aroused, causing one to get adrenaline in the form of "rapid heartbeat, shortness of breath, and sensations of excitement that are often similar to sensations associated with danger".Other physical symptoms include "blood pressure go[ing] up a little, the skin...flush[ing], the face and ears...turn[ing] red and...[a] feeling of weakness in the knees".For instance, phosphate in buried bones is slowly replaced by fluoride ions from the ground water.Measurement of the proportion of fluorine present gives a rough estimate of the time that the bones have been in the ground.You're attaching a lot of meaning to very little substance and creating a fantasy.Chemistry is not a magic emotion: it is something that builds over time when you feel safe with someone and you build intimacy.