Many people struggle to get past the first few dates with someone new because they fail to realize one very important fact about any romantic relationship: It is alive.
Okay, not literally–but it might as well be, for how sensitive it is to subtle fluctuations in the conditions it needs to thrive.
Or to jump in way too fast and forget your old life. Among them is one that is often overlooked: creativity.
When we alter who we are and portray values that are not our own, we attract people we were never meant to attract, therefore the relationship is doomed before it begins. It is much easier than putting forth the energy required to pretend. DON'T complain about your lack of luck with love or blame your city's [insert city name here] dating scene!
Season your romance with the fresh and memorable flavor of originality. At the other end of the spectrum, it is possible to smother a seedling relationship with excessive “care and feeding.” Pace yourself to be sure you aren’t overwhelming your potential partner with expectations neither of you are ready for. Simply being human guarantees you will both find the rough edges in each other and in yourselves.
Pepper it with the little touches that communicate you are different from the usual “dinner and a movie” crowd. The trick is to face potential problems when they first arise and not ignore them until they’ve grown out of proportion.
This is not the time to pretend to be someone that you’re not just because you don’t want to risk losing this person.
If you are not yourself, you will have a very difficult time pretending to be someone that you’re not for the entirety of the relationship.