The answer to the first part of the question, “When is a man too old to marry? Everyone has the right to be happy regardless of his or her age. Committing yourself via holy matrimony to someone you love doesn’t have an age limit.Think about this: when you were in high school, you dated guys in your own peer group.I mean, dating an “older” man consisted of picking someone 3 years older but who didn’t own his own car and thought burping games were fun. You’re either burnt out from dating, divorced, or never married and starting to get a bit concerned.I was so busy reading the messages I thought men were sending me – he loves me, he loves me not, he just wants sex – that I never recognised I was sending out a message too.And it was, loud and clear: "Not Ready to Settle Down." It got me thinking about all the attractive, successful single women I've met over the years – and Shane, whom I knew back in the Eighties, was one of them – and how they seemed to have it all; their professional status, their own homes (and mortgages), their own Mastercard (sometimes gold-plated), their own teeth (sometimes capped and bleached). If ever you watched them in a room full of people at a party, you'd see them refuse to go out of their way to meet the one available man who, usually, had been invited by the hostess with good intentions, especially for them to meet.In order to merit the interest of the younger ladies the man has to either be extremely successful or super stable with an awesome personality and above average looks.In other words, he’s got to have “game” (as a Hollywood producer friend once termed it).
But if you view marriage as the gateway to having children and raising a family, which I believe most people do, then age matters a great deal.
The men I meet who are well into their fourth decade sport huge smirks on their faces.
As one 44 year old man recently told me, these are the best of times for his dating pursuits. I really believe that one of the major reasons why so many men who claim to want to be married remain single well into their forties and beyond is that:1) They think they can continue dating women a decade or more (much more) their junior because of the scarcity of eligible bachelors, which is actually true, but only to a point.
When they were dragged over to meet him eventually, they wouldn't flirt or flatter him or express any interest at all.
And when they left they wouldn't slip him their number unless he asked for it, and even then they might demur.