And for those of you who have done it, know that online dating can challenge your mental and emotional sanity, and to do it in godliness can seem almost impossible. Test him, ask him hard questions, don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself. There are so many people out there — yes, other people that love God and love others! Yes, this year I’ve cried more tears about this process than I could have ever imagined, but there is a bright side: In a culture of ever-growing isolation, this tool allows us to be available to guys who are also seeking marriage. Leah is the oldest of four girls, works in the restaurant development world with a degree in Business Management, and enjoys exploring intentional living.But through the endless messaging, countless phone conversations, text messages and date after date after date, I’ve learned a few lessons. Remember, you are getting to know a stranger, so don’t say to yourself, I’m OK if all we do is email for four months. Guys are not clear sometimes when they are not interested, so you have to read their actions and not their words. If they don’t reach out, if they don’t call it a “date,” if they don’t call you, just let it go. I can “put myself out there” in a classy way and be faithful to the desire that God’s given me. Online dating is like walking in a minefield, and we are only a few wrong decisions away from destruction. This includes meaningful relationships, Cross Fit, long-distance running, good books and maybe the occasional piece of dark chocolate.We've lived in four cities together, and we share our home, our creative work and our dreams with each other. Julie Spira Author, Online Dating and Netiquette Expert, CEO of Cyber-Dating Expert, Media Personality, and Author of the Bestseller, "The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online." Doing things on my own felt awkward and almost embarrassing at first, but over the course of time I have learned to embrace my own company.
This year has been my initiation into all things online dating, and let’s just say that the tears factor has been exponential.Don't ask your friends to tell you everything they can because you can end up with a tainted view of what to expect.Half the fun of going out is getting to know someone new, so allow yourself to let that happen organically." —Oliver B."Please don't compare us to your exes—out loud or even in your head.She kept it real in an interview with Elle magazine in 2011, saying that even she sometimes feels self-conscious about her appearance.Most importantly, however, she stressed the importance of being comfortable in one's own skin.Yes, it seems so right and loyal and kind to only date one person at once, but let’s remember something: This person is a stranger. I don’t care how much info they have on their profile — they are a stranger. If one pursues you consistently, faithfully and asks to be exclusive, then be exclusive. Sometimes horror stories about them can make for fun discussion, but don't ever bring your ex into the conversation if it's not called for.When I hear about a girl's man, I'm assuming we probably shouldn't be on that date period.And I’d like to pass these along to you: things I wish I knew when I started. When I signed up for online dating, I couldn’t believe how addicting it was. Maybe they will save you a few tears as you navigate your own journey. I forgot to sleep, eat and basically just took a break from it to do my job. And for those of us who don’t get asked out often, it feels amazing to have so many guys messaging you and sending you questions. There’s a weird thing about online dating in which your mind wants to project a “perfect person” image onto your date. Remember, we need to be filling our mind with truth and thinking of things that are true.